Is It Okay To Have A Bad Day?

Hello!

So...How is my day going? Well - I could respond with two different responses:

"Yeah, really good!"

...or I can give the honest response:

"Absolutely shit and I don't know what to do with my life and I feel like everything in my life is wrong."

Recently, I have had a good few weeks, smiling, laughing - almost like nothing was ever wrong and it was amazing. But - sometimes these feelings don't last forever, which sucks; but that is life for you. For those of you who don't know, my past relationship of two years ended on April fools day - (I know, what a great day to end it...), which really hit me hard, I guess. I also know that there may be a slight risk that he may read this, so if you are...hey. One thing that, we as humans, hate to say to others is that breakups hurt, and we act like we're fine and that we're not bothered; but it does hurt and it sucks.

This break really hit me hard - with me having feelings that he has now found someone better than me, and that I'm not good enough, and that I don't deserve anyone because I just upset people and ruin their lives. And these feelings suck. For those two weeks, I smiled and finally felt that I could leave these feelings in the past. But unfortunately, flashback to Wednesday night, it all came at once, with me breaking down, overthinking and feeling overall - very crap about life. All I wanted at that moment was for things to go back to a year prior to it all, and just change what happened, and act differently in order to get a different outcome.

But you cannot go back on life, and therefore you need to ask yourself - "What is crying and being upset going to change?" The majority of the time, it won't change anything. You can only change the future and how you approach new situations ahead.

But going back to the title..."Is it okay to have a bad day?"

Yes. It is okay to bundle up in your duvet and cry to soppy films on your own in your room. But try and keep this to a minimum. Try to allow this every now and then, otherwise, it is a very vicious cycle of depressing thoughts. One of the many tips that I was able to take on board after the break up was to "Allow yourself to have a 'bad hour' of the day. Set yourself a short amount of time to just rant, or cry or let it all out instead of dwelling on it all day and then hold it in when you are outside of this hour."

And I will leave this on that advice. Give yourself some time.

Maisie x